I love my husband. I mean LOVE him! We met in high-school and have been married for ten years. I’m sorry to admit that over the past few years, while my love for him has not diminished, my time for him most certainly has. The demands of motherhood and business ownership have edged him out of the #1 spot on my priority list . . . at least as far as how much time I allocate for him. Because he doesn’t fall apart when things don’t go his way (and lets face it . . . both children and clients can do that!), he winds up silently suffering while moving ever closer to the proverbial back burner.
A few nights before the close of 2011, as my husband and I lay in bed, he confided that he felt uncared for. Who can blame him? If he worked the hours I worked, and came to bed long after I went to sleep, I can guess I would feel more than a little ignored. As we talked, we formulated a plan to put him back in the place where he belongs – at the top of my list. He knows there will still be the occasional late night, or a weekend where I have to hammer out a lot of work, but he knows these will be the exception, and that he can count on me to be his wife . . . and his friend . . . again.
Our plan looks like this:
* I stop working when he gets home most nights of the week. Unless I am taking client appointments that evening, my laptop will not be joining us while we watch Castle on the couch.
* We have a sitter in place who will come twice a month so we can go out on a real, actual, get gussied-up and leave-the-house date.
* On the other two weeks, we will have an at-home date night, and we’ll do things like share a bottle of wine and chat, watch a movie together, or rock out with Guitar Hero.
* We will go to bed at the same time on most nights. It’s a little hard to be close with one another as a married couple when one spouse’s nighttime buddy is a glowing monitor display.
* We’ll communicate. My husband suffered for years before finally admitting that he felt like I didn’t care for him like I should. I am hoping that with our new commitment to lovingly tend to our marriage that we will both be able to speak up at the first sign that things are looking unbalanced.
Mommas, it is so easy to think that you will have more time with your significant other. That you can tend to that person’s needs later and it will be okay. But the truth is that we will always have a vast array of responsibilities and hopes competing for our time and attention, and that tomorrow we may think the same thing all over again. For those that have committed their lives to us, who need their partner, lover, friend . . . let’s make an effort to make sure they know they’re loved.
To my hubby, if you’re reading this, I love you H.P.
Have a great day everyone!
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***Mommas, I found out that there are only a few seats left in my class at WPPI! If you want to learn how to run a home-studio that averages four-digit sales every time, this is the class for you! Bring a blank notebook and be prepared to fill it! (Light hand-stretching before the class is advised!
) I can’t wait to meet those of you who have already signed up! ***
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(Isn’t he cute??!!)
by Emily
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